Do You Need A Tribe? Seth Godin’s Response

“I don’t want everyone to have a tribe. I only want people who want the world to change to have a tribe….” “…the world is lined up in a way now that instead of having to have power or cash, you can make change merely by leading people who want to go somewhere”  –Seth Godin, author of Tribes, Linchpin, et al.

….IF you will stand up and lead your tribe

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One Tribe

One Tribe?


The Most Powerful Question Is…


Yes, “why?” in my opinion is the powerful one in my book.

Yes, Yes, I know “How?” is pretty powerful too, though I believe “why” edges it out for top spot.

If I could have two, I’d take both!

For example, in my mastermind groups, “How Can I …..?” is probably the most powerful generator of ideas. It is a high leverage question if you allow the answers to flow and not judge them.

When I’m in conversation with someone one-to-one, I like to ask lots of “why” questions because it reveals so much to me.  The answers that are said and the answers that aren’t, say a lot…at least they do to me because I genuinely care about the meanings.

Look at it this way.  If I ask “What do you do?”, it’s a stock question.  Even if I ask it with complete presence and authenticity, I can go deeper, faster by asking “Why do you do what you do?”.  Even “how” in this example isn’t as effective.  “What do you do?” “How do you do it?” are a bit superficial for me.  They are, of course, helpful and will be useful questions later, though I still want to go for the heart first and then move out to What, How, Who, When, etc…

  • Why do you do what you do?
  • Why is this cause so important to you?
  • Why does it matter to your clients to….?
  • Why do you live in San Diego?
  • Why are you here today?

I guarantee you that the answers will always be revealing, interesting and generate a unique conversation that you couldn’t have expected.

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Experiment with this in your next conversation and leave an impression that you genuinely care which will increase your likeability factor.


From Meeting To Mastermind: When One plus One Equals Three

When does 1+1=3?

According to mastermind group participants that I’ve heard from in the last 8 years, they’ve told me they agree that when they came together to mastermind with a common objective and did so in the spirit of harmony, they indeed left with more than they came with.  Whether that was energy, ideas, resources, etc…

Can your meeting make that claim?

Or, have your meeting experiences been like so many others where you came away feeling “less” than when you arrived?

Wouldn’t you think that when people meet with a common objective, that more is created together? And certainly if they believed in and were inspired by the common objective?

I mean really, isn’t that wasted time, mental and emotional energy if more DOESN’T come of it?

There IS a better way.  The Meeting to Mastermind way that we teach here at

I must say, though, that it DOES start with your intention and commitment to being authentic and supporting your fellow meeting participants to build trust.

When you’re ready to move your tired old meetings to masterminds that actually create “magic moments”, then engage and make a difference.

At the end of the day, wouldn’t you rather look back and say, “That was time well invested” versus “time wasted”?

I’ll leave you with this quote.  It certainly reminds me how powerful I can be to others when I bring a spirit of harmony to a team.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Quote by Marianne Williamson
What are you doing to be part of the solution?

Time To Upgrade Your Peer Group?

I hear it all the time.  “I just have to find more like-minded people”, “I need more positive people around me”, “Where can I find cool mastermind partners?”

Well here is your chance!  I’m a big believer in mastermind, support, collaboration, co-mentoring groups.  Shoot…anything that brings people together.  In fact, I’ve been a total geek about it for 8 years.

Why? Because I know (and I know you know in your heart too) that when individuals come together RESULTS happen.

Today, I want to share three powerful ways you can radically transform your your results.

1.   Take Care of Yourself BEFORE others

Yes, I said it!  To be of best service to others, you MUST take care of YOU.  Feed your body, mind and soul if you are going stay in the game and do good for others.
I see it every day as I work with clients and goodness knows it’s a smack-in-the-head-reminder to me too.  Breathing out requires breathing in or you’re going to pass out and be no good to anyone!
What does that look like?  Look at what recharges your soul — A walk on the beach, a massage, a good run, a superfood smoothie, getting a really good hug, a solid 8 hrs sleep?  Even a couple deep breaths at your desk will work wonders.  This is your choice, but you MUST, absolutely MUST do it.

2.   Hang With Your Tribe

Find “your people” and schedule time to be with them.  Your “tribe” are those people that energize and inspire you to be your best self; to do your best work.  Let the excuses go and deliberately create the reality that you want.
  • Call — Pick up the phone and call a friend that inspires you; you enjoy; that FUELS you.  Trust me, they will MAKE time if you start off with “Hey I’m reaching out because you inspire me….” or “I’m calling because I like when you….”.  Who doesn’t love that?  Tell them what they do for you.
  • Meet — Call some buds and meetup at the local pub or cafe.  Take point and make it happen (this really is doing it for you primarily and it’s a bonus that they will feel good too!)  I’m quite fond of “Walk & Talks” where I get to walk and meet with friends and associates.

3.   Build A New Tribe

If you have a great tribe around here, excellent, build on that.  If you’re being honest with yourself and want to attract a better tribe, read on.

Put yourself in situations where you are expanding your scope of influence.

It’s time again to LET GO of excuses and BE THE SOLUTION.  Deliberately allow yourself to find good people that are also looking for you.  Go to meetup groups around something you enjoy.  Join Toastmasters, go to a self-development, business-development workshop each month.  And of course, start a new mastermind group!!!  You know who to call for help with that right?

The bonus is you’ll learn something new.  The primary goal is to elevate the quality of people you’re hanging with by going to places where people like something you like.

Bottom Line:  I stress coming together with others because in the absence of knowing what to do in your life, business, relationship, whatever, someone else is the solution to that challenge–if and only IF you allow it.

Let that one sink in.  You KNOW that the same mind that created the problem, isn’t going to be the one that solves it.  Let us help you help you.

(TAKE A DEEP BREATH)  Ahhhh- it’s receiving time.  It’s breathing IN time.

Make NOW Extraordinary!

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The Same Brain That Created The Problem, Isn’t Going to Solve It

Humans are built to collaborate…if we ALLOW ourselves.

We create more together than we can alone.  This allowing is where the breakthroughs happen.  If we don’t allow, then we continue to get what we’ve gotten.

I recognized this as a pattern when I listened to Clate Mask, CEO of Infusionsoft talk about what it takes to be move from being a $300K business versus a $3M business.

I’ve witnessed that there is a barrier that we bump up against again and again and wonder why we get stopped out at that same place.  Fundamentally, we are using what got us HERE to take us THERE and that doesn’t always work.

What’s the Solution?

A different  perspective, fresh ideas, etc… and the fastest, easiest place to get that?  Other people!  It’s certainly worth a quick conversation rather than beating your head against the wall “trying” to figure it out.

#1  Collaborate with others

#2  Go one better, create a mastermind group and mastermind a solution

A quick 50 sec video that I recorded as we started a walking mastermind group called “The Walk & Talk”

What do you think?